How should you practice unconditional forgiveness?

Forgiving others for what they did wrong to you is for your benefit. Are you holding grudges, anger, or resentment towards others? Do you prefer being free or becoming a prisoner of what others did? How can you set yourself free?

Withdrawing your life from the consequences of evil thoughts is essential for a happy life. Developing a positive mindset allows your brain to declutter most of the effects of your bad experiences. You have the choice to either keep the pressure of your traumatic experience in your mind and body or let it go away and set you free. If you decide to keep the pressure, it may turn into a silent killer by gradually disturbing the harmony of your brain and you becoming a chronically ill person. 

Three persons are involved in the process of forgiveness – the perpetrator, the victim, and God. You are the victim and the other person is the perpetrator. You may carry the pressure of being a victim and accuse others of their actions. You can be a winner by letting go of the victimization and releasing the negative emotions from your mind. When you forgive the perpetrator, you become a great person and secure your happiness. Media and modern propaganda encourage your feeling of victimizing each event by spreading the negative impact of your experience. Each incident happens for many reasons. You are not supposed to postmortem those incidents and find inferences about why those things happened to you. Your objective should be living a happy life, not becoming a detective.

How can you practice unconditional forgiveness? First, prepare an inventory list of everything affecting your daily life – bad experiences, unreleased emotions, pent-up anger etc. Second, schedule enough quiet time daily to practice the process. Third, read your inventory list one after another and say ‘I forgive this person for what did wrong or hurt me without any condition’. Pray to God for forgiving that person. You can specify that you already forgive that person and request God free them. Meditate on this item for some time. You may experience deep emotional discharge in certain items. Let the mind release the hurt by crying and sighing. Follow the above process for all items on your list. Repeat this process daily until you start forgetting all items on your lists. The human brain forgets things rarely, but those forgiven things will not disturb you anymore. This whole process may take a month or two. You become free when you finish the above process. You begin your real life from this time. 

Encourage you to develop the habit of unconditional forgiveness and living in peace.