Everyone from small children to adults suffer from grief. Some ruin the rest of their lives in grief, while others overcome it and experience goodness. How are you managing sadness?
Life is a mixture of joy and sorrow. So sorrow, failure, mistakes and guilt are part of life. Those who always want only the best, run away from their life when experience turns upside down. Finding reasons blaming someone else for our unhappiness. What is the benefit of this? A few days of inactivity, fighting against an invisible enemy and destroying health and life. Confined in a self-made prison, burning oneself and taking on all the diseases, one becomes a scapegoat and shortens one’s lifespan. This is called suicidal attempt. The result is the same whether it kills life suddenly or destroys in a few days. If you are in a situation like this, understand that you have a bright future, don’t ruin it for yourself.
When people are sad, they increase their sadness by listening to depressing songs, showing sad faces all the time, harboring negative thoughts, and staying away from happy situations and celebrations for long periods of time. They are afraid of what others will think. The policy of some people is like if adversities happen prematurely, those persons should be locked up for the rest of their lives. It is a very cruel form of entertainment. Remember, people who are stuck in grief have a right to live. In fact no loss is bigger than your life.
Realize that sadness and happiness are different mental states. By sharing, sadness decreases and happiness increases. When you are sad, share with others and discuss only happy things. Listen to songs that inspire courage and hope. Indulge in humorous conversations, games and fun activities with children. There is a time for everything, a time to be sad, a time to be happy, a time to sow, a time to reap.
Many people are reluctant to talk and support those who are sad. That’s because they don’t know how to talk to them. They also have the right to live. They should be treated more intimately and with care as they were treated till yesterday, only they can return to normal life very soon. What we should not do is run away from sad people but to come closer, stand together, and provide courage.
May you find joy in your sorrows.
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Feeling your not-so-great feelings instead of ignoring them is a good idea because once we actually feel them, the intensity decreases. You may be sad because of different reasons like you’re feeling abandoned and rejected by someone or you’re grieving a loss.
When we ignore sadness, it can make you irritable angry, frustrated feeling alone, unloved.
When you acknowledge that you’re sad and begin to process what’s behind it, you can communicate and connect with people about how you really feel.
Thinking and talking positively, reading, doing something you like, visiting places you like will all help the grieving process.
Praying and reading Bible helps when I’m sad.